Tuesday, March 25, 2014

Beautiful Skies..... in Korea


Not too long ago,
we were carefree 
basking in the cold wintery mornings 
in glorious Seoul 
in fun-filled Lotte World
where adults morph into giddy teens
and kids play in a world they rule!

I miss u Seoul
Very much so.
Where skies were clear
and we could snuggle up in our fleece 
 

Sunday, March 23, 2014

A Marriage.... Ours


My man skyped me a month back, 
asking me if I am interested to go for a marriage seminar, 
just to keep up with how to communicate better and perhaps, 
in the course, find out if there are new methods / ideas 
to work through issues that we may have OR 
if we develop some strange undercurrent 
that may require delicate handling... haha. 

I agreed. I am all for lifelong learning. 
One has to keep the brain like a sponge
always willing to absorb, learn, be open,
explore and this will push your envelope,
challenge one to be better at your craft. 

So we went for: 


This was co-organised by Mediacorp and the "garment" 
I had two takeaways from the entire getup.... 
(A) Speak life into your partner, ALWAYS
it ain't a choice, it helps, spare 3 solid minutes a day to be grateful 
and positive about your spouse's pros / strengths / talents / beauty

(B) Set aside one night in a week for "Date Night" 
without the kids, the outlaws and in-laws and friends.... 
just gaze into each other's eyes and drown there please.... 
NOOTT... that will barely last for 3 secs before one of you burst out laughing
but date nights are meant to revive "Fun" and possibly do stuff
that you did when you dated / paktor-ed 

And there was this one exercise where we looked at each other
and show your partner if there was any stuff that transpired 
in the past (the past only starts from Day 1 of your marriage, 
DOES NOT INCLUDE PAKTOR Days...)
and using your eyes only, tell your partner if you have been hurt
by what he / she said coz he / she was a klutz and had limited vocab
so in the course of communication, was too blunt in their selection of words

I practically won the Oscars! 
Tears welled up at the corner of my eyes
with my poor doe-eyes filling up with tears fast and yet 
not shedding a single drop,
My muscle man, was fast turning into a mash of pudding 
and I always declare he is cool as a cucumber,
aka Mr Poker Face... he could only express helplessness for a brief moment
before displaying the look of "I am sorry I hurt you" 
without even knowing what I was thinking
(we were not allowed to communicate during this exercise except with our eyes)

When this exercise came to an end, 
we hugged, like a big huge bear hug
and he asked, so what did I do? 
I was like, we addressed it already,
but that was the only sad part of this marriage thus far,
so I had to go back to that place so that I can express sadness,
coz 98% of the time, I AM V HAPPY!
He makes me happy, confident, secured and perhaps, gives me steel wings to fly too!
1.5% of the time, I am irritated with his quirks and lazy habits at home
which at times, i feel like murdering him... oh well, 
the last 0.5% of the time, I am truly upset / sad with him. 


He has always been my go-to person to share everything with
since we were merely friends
he ALWAYS tries to and does solve my problems
but he is adapting, he now quips, if i merely need a ventilation outlet / listening ear
OR Mr Fix It? 
Smart aleck me, came up with Option 4 - I need Mr Hug Me Now and just tell me all will be alright... 
I sometimes throw all caution and doubts to the wind and live with full abandonment 
IN THE MOMENT! I need THOSE MOMENTS to keep me sane! 
No matter how fleeting. 
Coz the world out there, sometimes, 
is a big bad world. 
I need my anchor, my harbour. 
God provided me my muscle man,
as a tangible expression of HIS LOVE for me. 

And I will always remain, grateful. 
For Him, for my man, for those moments! 

Xoxo. 

Friday, March 21, 2014

While Away


When Art Goes Onto a Flawless Canvas
it becomes Perfection!
Inspired by My Muse. 
Dita Von Teese


Fancy a Flight of Flancy?



So much has happened since my last post
I have been so swamped that i decided this blog needs to take a backseat
LIKE BIG TIME! 

Marriage:

I still enjoy being married to him
I have known him since 2000,
started dating him in 2003
married him in 2009. 
The really awesome and mind blowing bit is
I AM STILL NOT SICK of him
he still manages to amaze and impress me
even after all these years
I still love to embark on life's adventures with him
travel the world as wanderlust strikes us, whenever,
still adjusting to his wicked sense of "encouraging" me
and still believing in his dreams, 
his capabilities and wanting to provide the wind beneath his wings to take flight. 
Yup, I fancy a wondrous flight of fantasy 
He makes me feel like I can be whoever I want to be
Security and the freedom to focus on whatever we wish to do are just 
starters on this huge plate of offerings that we are cooking

Friendships:
I have been so blessed. 
Been in touch with more people
Reconciled with more
Soaring with some of them
Made new ones whom I know are for keeps, this lifetime and hopefully the next
BFFs who stand by me
believe in me
cry with me
laugh with me
bitch with me
dance with me
sing with me
dine with me
I am just so grateful

Family:
The folks are challenging at times
otherwise alright
mum-sy isn't feeling too good
going for a heart check soon
dad had an incident and is better
we had a scare that morning! 
The family trip was scary 
made me miss my man more
realized that I got to make a permanent mindset shift... 
i.e. my folks are here to teach me patience - whether I like it or not. 
Oh well... 
The mum-sy-in-law has been fantastic,
things are great between us, what is even better is how much closer I have gotten
with her and my grandmother-in-law... she dotes on me and spoils me silly. 
I am truly blessed. 


Work:
This 2014, is a year of change, of greatness, of HIS GLORY
I can smell it in the air! 
Am working towards it. 
Am praying for the stars to align. 
While setting the foundation. 
My man is asking me for a biz plan
I love how he keeps me grounded thou I hate this part
of pulling a proposal together
My man needs to rule the world 
while I keep the house clean, neat and head out to work out my bod 
and enjoy shopping and do PR and Marketing consultancy work. Ideal!!! 
(Hahahaha.... a girl can dream... can't she???) 

I thank God for everything. Every single person. 
At this point of my life, I can tell the rotten apples from the good ones
the ones with an agenda and the ones I can count on,
I may appear all innocent and blur and whatever else I want you to believe
but trust me, still waters..... run really really deep. 
Not in a bad way, but
in a smart way. 
I strive to be, the greatest team player I ever can be!
As they say "THE BEST IS YET TO COME!" 
Carpe Diem!!!!!!! Always! 


My Health & Weight Loss:
My determination, focus and discipline levels have reached a new high
I cannot fathom if you asked me 2 years back,
Can you go exercise and lose weight? 
I would go and try for a month, tops!
and revert to the sluggish lifestyle once more
But now, after embarking on this for 15 months,
I lost a total of 20kg to-date, I am lighter than my man
as any good wife should (be lighter than her man)
except if you are pregnant then it doesn't count. 
I have another 15kg to lose, making it a total of 35kg
my BFF says I got more room, the hubs is happy to see me drop me
in a stable and healthy fashion.
XoxoxO,
R